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Monday, June 10, 2013

Dealing With Death | 2 comments:

I'm grateful to God that I have yet to face death of any of my close family. Thus far, the only death that I had to deal with painstakingly was the death of my pet kitten, who died in front of my bedroom door. Images of me and mom digging a hole to buried her is clearly engraved in my mind. And I think I cried for almost a week over this incident.

I was reading the late Christopher Reeve's wikipedia this morning (he remains my favorite Superman ever!) and his story had me pondering about dealing with the depart of the loved ones.

Christopher Reeve fell down from a horse and sustained severe injuries on his spine which led him to paralysed neck down. The story of his struggles to live really had me teared up. There was once where he thought of suicide because the pain that he had to go through physically and mentally was too torturous.

But Christopher Reeve was considered quite lucky to have his wife supporting him throughout this agonizing journey.

"I am only going to say this once. I will support whatever you want to do, because this is your life, and your decision. But I want you to know that I'll be with you for the long haul, no matter what. You're still you. And I love you." This are the words that wife, Lana Reeves said that stopped him from giving up on his life.

Despite being wheel chair bound, he never stopped living his life and was actively helping others, and this was really inspiring. In 2004, Christopher Reeve had a cardiac arrest and was finally rest in peace, leaving behind Lana and 3 children.

But the saddest part was, Lana was dianogsed with lung cancer in 2005 and passed away in 2006. And this made me feel that Lana was really pitiful because she had to faced her illness alone. Maybe not alone, but I feel that it is different when your spouse is not there. The nights that she had to sleep through alone. I felt, if it wasn't for the children, she would have attempted suicide too.

I don't know why I am summarizing the facts on wikipedia, and I don't even know how to end this post without letting it hang midway. But I really hope that all my loved ones live longer than I do because I don't think I am able to handle it well. I know it sounded selfish but I really rather die first than being devastated.


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